tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2416343387857450101.post7845926579330580650..comments2023-12-25T09:56:21.603-05:00Comments on The Wonder Women: I Wonder if They Call Me That?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2416343387857450101.post-42270754439514894502008-01-14T17:03:00.000-05:002008-01-14T17:03:00.000-05:00i just think it's bad that we've come to this. th...i just think it's bad that we've come to this. this whole 'who's on who's team' sort of a mentality. which is the way human nature is, i suppose, but it still irritates me. <BR/><BR/>why do we have to justify our reasons to have children or not? or rather, why do we feel the need to?<BR/><BR/>i don't think any less of people who decide not to have children. in fact, i think it's an admirable choice and a mature choice not to give in to societal 'expectations.' but i also hate feeling as though others look at me as a traitor for having children. like just because i decided to procreate with my husband i'm shunning my single friends or childless ones.<BR/><BR/>sadly enough, this whole pointing fingers dealy-ma-job goes both ways.super janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08088372296387525463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2416343387857450101.post-2633163402125165102008-01-14T15:16:00.001-05:002008-01-14T15:16:00.001-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09385325089004358268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2416343387857450101.post-10025880937586791792008-01-14T15:16:00.000-05:002008-01-14T15:16:00.000-05:00Hmmm. I suppose some people do. To me of course,...Hmmm. I suppose some people do. To me of course, you're just Rin and stagexing. If you were less close friends of mine, I might wonder more, categorize you more. But being who we are to each other, it's just something I've always known and accepted about you. <BR/><BR/>I don't feel pity. Sometimes maybe a leeeetle envy - when I think about the freedom you guys have that we're about to lose. But that's true with any choice, I guess. Darlin' is absolutely green with envy over where you live, for example. I am green with envy over your professional lives. Perhaps you envy me my fantastically wonderful dog, or my groovin' 2003 Matrix with no hubcaps and 130000 miles already, dear God. Who knows!<BR/><BR/>By the way, I have several friends in the "not going to have" category. I fuss over their horses or cats or pet projects. They pat my baby bump and buy me little rompers and ask name picks. We revel in each others' happiness, whatever form it takes! We'll always be able to find something to talk about.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09385325089004358268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2416343387857450101.post-26084926741347208582008-01-14T15:06:00.000-05:002008-01-14T15:06:00.000-05:00I am right there with you, sister. After two week...I am right there with you, sister. After two weeks of visiting all the brand new babies back home, I personally felt the same kind of at peace with my choice that you did after viewing Juno. (Husband, on the other hand, does hear his bio clock ticking.) The Only thing that remotely, not bothered me, but kinda, was some of my friends said- "I understand Love now." Well, good for you- but, don't I understand what Love is too? You know how in greek their are like a million different words for the different kinds of love? Is that what they are saying? That there is a secret handshake kind of love that I will never participate in? Humph.kayceehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16989756287523889461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2416343387857450101.post-90390202144330555132008-01-14T14:47:00.000-05:002008-01-14T14:47:00.000-05:00I, um, don't know what to say. We're childless to...I, um, don't know what to say. We're childless too and plan to be for quite a while. I don't know that I've ever wondered if people pitied us, but I do know that I've wondered if people call me heartless or cold for not being more maternal or for wanting a brood of babies. <BR/><BR/>It's still something I struggle with. Having a child is something that is life-altering in a completely irreversible way and it does change things -- for everyone. Once you have kids, the way you move through the world changes. Just like it did when you got married. It's same, but different. <BR/><BR/>I'll tell you what I call you guys through e-mail! It's nice, but I'm not sure that those in the family way would think it was so funny. I only wish sarcasm came across more effectively over the internet. :)Wicked Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07102654686320756502noreply@blogger.com